I can't help with which paint shade to use, but bear in mind that restored, currently airworthy aircraft very often use gloss paints, in order to prevent or minimise weathering and paint wear. A gloss finish, even in the exact same shade as the matt version, will look different and, normally, a touch darker.
The xtracrylic paint sounds like the one to use, with a matt clear coat to finish, which will tone-down the 'starkness' and, I'd guess, make it look 'right'.