What made me sad today...

[Viking1066]

Turned into a very difficult evening for my children. They really miss their mom, but she doesn't usually cross the street to see them on the weekends. I had a minor break down myself as it's very difficult with school starting next week for them, and myself. It's going to be a very stressing school year for all involved.

 

[Thumpalumpacus]

He was a very independent man and I knew what it must have meant to him.

Ed,, that's exactly it. Even though my mom couldn't remember her own home address, I could see how ashamed she felt needing to be helped with such a basic need. Me being me, of course I told her "You wiped my ass when I couldn't do it, I'll do it when you can't," which probably wasn't a great thing to say, but at least she knows I won't blow smoke .... so far as she can remember it all.

It's a shit sandwich. She's gotten better, can excrete and clean herself up, but still can't cook for herself or remember where she is. But seeing that lost look in her eyes just fucking hurts.

 

[special ed]

My youngest sister looked after our mother so she wouldn't have to leave home.

 

[Thumpalumpacus]

My youngest sister looked after our mother so she wouldn't have to leave home.

Yeah, I had to give up my place and move in with mom to avoid placing her in a home.

 

[Viking1066]

I remember I had to quit my job in WI to move to Texas to take care of my dad in 1997. My mom had always made me promise I would take care of him if she ever passed. While down there he discovered he had chronic congestive heart failure. He ended up practically passing in front of my eyes before they scooted me out of there. They passed within three years of each other. That was one of the most difficult times of my life. Right now isn't too great, but thank God I have my kids. They really cheer up their old dad.

 

[special ed]

I was in the room at the rest home when my Dad stopped breathing. Although Mom had said "Do not resusitate" the staff rushed in and did their thing and had him breathing for less than five minutes more.

 

[Greg Boeser]

My MiL had a turn this weekend. She's drifting in and out of conciousness. My wife is with her now.

 

[Peter Gunn]

Yeah, I had to give up my place and move in with mom to avoid placing her in a home.

Same here, I'm the youngest but somehow everything fell to me, when dad passed I had to handle the funeral, insurance, everything. Then had mom move in with me years later and when she passed the same damn thing. I still love my siblings but that put a bit of a damper on things, as I got NO help from them, they got to grieve while I was running around handling everything.

Not to mention that when I was at the University of Michigan I had to quit school for over a year and a half to come to Florida to care for the both of them, they eventually got better but try going back to university after an 18 month interruption. Apparently it was OK for me to f*ck my life up and set me back in my career several years and get NO help from them doing it. Good thing I'm not bitter about it.

 

[Peter Gunn]

I remember I had to quit my job in WI to move to Texas to take care of my dad in 1997. My mom had always made me promise I would take care of him if she ever passed. While down there he discovered he had chronic congestive heart failure. He ended up practically passing in front of my eyes before they scooted me out of there. They passed within three years of each other. That was one of the most difficult times of my life. Right now isn't too great, but thank God I have my kids. They really cheer up their old dad.

For what it's worth buddy, you have us too, we're here for you bud.