lesofprimus said:
Well thank u very much Mac....
Even after all these years its still tough, and my Uncle Don has been sorely missed.... We had some great fishing trips back in the day, the most memorable of which was the day we landed an 11 foot Great White off of Montauk Point....
I am sorry to hear that also Dan. Its funny it sort of hit a nerve when I read your post about your Uncle, when you brought up how he is missed and about your fishing trips with him.
My Dad (Roger) died from cancer 1.5 years about now. He more or less abandoned his family including me and sisters and Mother when I was 13. I hated him for that and never have forgiven him even till this day. He was a drunk, beat my sister and never was there for me when I grew up looking for a Father figure.
But when I was younger he and I would go fishing together, those were great times. Thats how I choose to remember my Dad, standing there on shore with me fishing for hours, not the alcoholic, abusive man who abandoned us.
I never saw or talked to him for many years after he left us b/c i was to mad. When he was on his death bed, I took my daughter to see him, he had never seen her upto then and she was 1.5 years old. I choose to see the man who was the man who went fishing with me when I was a kid, I forgave him. His eyes glowed seeing his granddaughter for the first and last time. The next day he died, I was holding his hand when he passed away.
After he died I am very sorry that we could not have a better relationship all these years, we wasted sooo many years not talking. I wish it could of been different, I all ever wanted growing up was a Dad to look up to. I despise my Dad, I hate my Dad, I love my Dad. I will always remember those fishing trips between just me and my Dad. He was not much of a Father but he was mine and I miss him.
Sorry Dan for your loss, sorry guys for going off subject, just Dan's story touched me and reminded me of my Dad.
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