I hope that everything gets as well as possible.
About that 'our place' and 'association' bitch - I'm not getting it. Care to expand?
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I hope that everything gets as well as possible.We were concerned for his mental state so I paid up his insurance and a couple of car payments, (who needs retirement funds am I right?) started boarding his cat but I can't house him at our place more than a night or two before the fuckers at the association bitch about guests "overstaying".
Been in similar situation myself way back when. I understand the depression from that situation completely. Believe it or not, it's great you guys are in contact. I went full hermit. No job left me feeling unable to face family and friends. I'm glad my folks reached out.My youngest son is really up against it at the moment, lost his job, losing his apartment, behind on his car and insurance payments and can't seem to buy a job. We were concerned for his mental state so I paid up his insurance and a couple of car payments, (who needs retirement funds am I right?) started boarding his cat but I can't house him at our place more than a night or two before the fuckers at the association bitch about guests "overstaying". Man am I lamenting not buying another house at the moment.
So right now he spends some of the day with his mom who works from home and then has dinner with us. Starting Thursday his apartment will be gone so looking into alternative housing for him. I can't tell you how much this kills me not being able to do better by him, we found out he's actually been battling depression for several months. It makes me sick to know I missed the signs but I think we caught it in time, he's still on my insurance so at least I can get him some psychological help if nothing else.
Eh, sorry for the tirade guys, must be lack of sleep, his situation is keeping me up nights.
In the US, many housing developments are governed by an association, either a homeowners' association or similar body. Everyone who lives there is governed by the association rules. These can be very strict, covering nearly all aspects of living there. Everything from approved colors of exteriors, what can be displayed in your front yard, ungaraged vehicles, housing guests, etc.I hope that everything gets as well as possible.
About that 'our place' and 'association' bitch - I'm not getting it. Care to expand?
My youngest son is really up against it at the moment, lost his job, losing his apartment, behind on his car and insurance payments and can't seem to buy a job. We were concerned for his mental state so I paid up his insurance and a couple of car payments, (who needs retirement funds am I right?) started boarding his cat but I can't house him at our place more than a night or two before the fuckers at the association bitch about guests "overstaying". Man am I lamenting not buying another house at the moment.
So right now he spends some of the day with his mom who works from home and then has dinner with us. Starting Thursday his apartment will be gone so looking into alternative housing for him. I can't tell you how much this kills me not being able to do better by him, we found out he's actually been battling depression for several months. It makes me sick to know I missed the signs but I think we caught it in time, he's still on my insurance so at least I can get him some psychological help if nothing else.
Eh, sorry for the tirade guys, must be lack of sleep, his situation is keeping me up nights.
Father-in-law got diagnosed Leukaemia. Luckily it seems to be a slow developing variant but still.
If it is old age, it could be not that a big thing. My sweet mother in law has got that diagnose at 71. She is now 82 . Very fit for an old timer she is.Father-in-law got diagnosed Leukaemia. Luckily it seems to be a slow developing variant but still.
So sorry to hear that, will keep you and your Father-In-Law in our prayers my friend.Father-in-law got diagnosed Leukaemia. Luckily it seems to be a slow developing variant but still.
Pretty much whatI hope that everything gets as well as possible.
About that 'our place' and 'association' bitch - I'm not getting it. Care to expand?
Buff,Brother Pete,
Went through something similar a few years back with our youngest, although he was still at home with us. Depression can be paralyzing and it's tough, as parents, to know how to proceed. My first recommendation is to persuade your son to get the help he needs. We enrolled our youngest in a day center that helped give him coping skills to recognize the onset of depressive thoughts and to find ways to address them (he had a double-whammy of anxiety, too).
As to the HOA, I'd tell them to shove it (although I'm letting my ire cloud my judgement here). Your son isn't a "guest"...he's your FAMILY. That's a crucial difference. I can see the HOA getting up in arms if a resident was sub-letting an apartment to a stranger. However, the HOA seeking to prevent parents from supporting a child during a crisis is an entirely separate thing and, IMHO, despicable. Are you on reasonable terms with any of the HOA officials? If so, perhaps you could have a private word with them to press the point I'm making about family not being guests?
Hope things start to come together for your family. We'll keep you all in our prayers.
oh shit !Father-in-law got diagnosed Leukaemia. Luckily it seems to be a slow developing variant but still.
In the US, many housing developments are governed by an association, either a homeowners' association or similar body. Everyone who lives there is governed by the association rules. These can be very strict, covering nearly all aspects of living there. Everything from approved colors of exteriors, what can be displayed in your front yard, ungaraged vehicles, housing guests, etc.
Glad I don't live in such an area.
Father-in-law got diagnosed Leukaemia. Luckily it seems to be a slow developing variant but still.
Father-in-law got diagnosed Leukaemia. Luckily it seems to be a slow developing variant but still.
Thanks Karl, I will. Maybe it's not so bad, we're waiting for some tests. Asoh shit !
send Hans my best wishes Marcel
A friend in San Antonio told of his HOA rules. His front door can only be painted white or pale cream, and if he doesn't cut grass every week, someone with a ruler checks to make sure the grass is not more than 8 inches tall.
Where I live is across the road from a subdivision with a HOA and I am often asked how I get away with something with the HOA. My answer is shocking.
Same here. But then I love old houses, so, cookie cutter McMansions were never going to attract me anyway.We made an executive decision to NEVER buy a property that was involved in a HOA. Too many friends being told what they can and cannot do on their own property, like being told they can't put a swingset in their back yard for their kids. Welcome to America, land of the free!