Thorlifter
Captain
Agree with Matt 100%
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I hope he gets it like a "scared straight" episode.
Well, he had a relapse, and it was a bad one.
I came home from school yesterday and my parents told him to stay outside and that they needed to talk to him. I told my little brother to go downstairs and i'd be down in a second. They got a call he was using opiates. He proceeded to start throwing things, he broke a glass table in the backyard, my dads bike, and a few other miscellaneous items. My dad told him that he needs to be evaluated at a hospital and he said he'd never take a drug test, screamed a few profanities, and then proceeded to fall asleep on the steps in the front of our house. Then my dad (Police officer) starting comparing my eyes to his, his pupils were like the point of a pin. He was obviously under the influence during this whole ordeal and the symptoms for heroin are violence toward loved ones.
He also broke one of my things and im bigger then him so I grabbed him and held him against the wall, my dad told me to let him go and then said not to come back in. We had the police take him to the hospital since he wouldn't go willingly. Doctors evaluated him there, he tested positive, but the kicker is they can't hold him there. He won't sign himself into a rehab and said he would rather be in jail. So my parents yesterday took pictures of everything broken and plan on filing charges with the police.
Everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie. Its not like were in some impoverished inner city area, my parents are both hardworking people who contribute to society. I don't get it.
Harrrison
i really feel for the situation you and your family are facing. I speak from experience, though my brother was an alcoholic, and a bad one (he was violent). and i come from a decent middle class background similar to your situation). so i believe my experience may be of some help. Just remember this, what you are dealing with here is not your brother, its the substance abuse. your brother is the guy you knew before the trouble started, not what you are seeing now. When he behaves like he does, it does no good to get in there and reason or debate or seek justice or retribution. The solution is that you have to be the adult, setting the limits on what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. you need to t0lk to your parents, and i would strongly recommend you get advice from a Counsellor (perhaps through your school....talk to your parents0. You need skills and maturity to deal with this situation, and i wont lie, its tough.
forgive your brothers lies it comes with the territory, but dont forget. Sounds like you are at the point that he will say or do anything. thats not him talking, its his dependance. he sounds like he is just a kid, hasnt realized or is uncaring as to the terrible toll his dependance is causing on himself and his family.
I want you to stop being a brother for a minute and be an adult. Thats what you need to do im afraid, if my experience is anything to go by. famillies are not well equipped to deal with this situation though your dads experience as a Police officer does (i think) give your family additional resources that might be helpful. There is no magic bullet to solve what you and your family face. You cannot abandon your brother if you love him, but neither can you let him run amok in your lives because his dependance will destroy you if you let that happen
In my opinion, the answer is the setting of limits as to what is acceptable and what isnt. This might sound stupid, but i think you need some area of sanctuary, an area or space that is yours, and your brother is not allowed to come into. I had the same problem. My brother used to come into my room and steal stuff and want to pick fights with me all the time. i got my parents to put a solid core door with a lock on my door. I had a relephone in my room. When my brother used to come home drunk and want to pick a fight with me, or steal or extort money from me, i would simply lock the door and he couldnt get in. My fortress. my sanctuary. when i would leave for school the door was locked. you also need to talk to your brother 9when he is sober, and lay down the "rules" for him as far as his dealings with you are concerned......what is acceptable and what isnt. Do that in consultation with your parents and counsellor. I would recomend you write them down.
eg
"1.Dont ever come in my room except when im there and with my full permission
2. Dont ever touch my stuff except with me there and with my permission
3. If you break or damage anything that is mine, you will pay for it (method of payment to be decided by Mom and Dad)
4. If you (your brother) dont use for 1 week, i promise to take you to bike riding each saturday morning, but if you lie about your usage and we find out, ther will be no bike rides for 1 month " .....etc
This wont just be for your benefit...it will set structure and order for your brother as well, and it sets limits for the whole family to know. it gives some sense of order and safety for a family which i think would be doing it tuff right now.
Michael
Marshal's taking him? Where are they sending him?
for transportation reasons since he more than likely wouldn't get on a plane with my dad they were sort of the 'muscle' so to speak. He's in Utah now since minors don't need to sign themselves into rehab like the 49 other states
So he is going back to rehab?